After losing my daughter Briela, I started looking for books that brought inspiration and hope – not necessarily books about grief. About 6 months after she passed away, someone had given me a book about miscarriage and infant loss, thinking it would be a blessing for me. As kind a gesture as it was, I found that the content in the book just brought me back to square one, and actually started depressing me. I had only read a couple pages when I needed to put it down and remember that I already had come to acceptance and moved on from the first stages of grief.
With that being said, I have found a couple books that have brought hope instead of sadness, which have been such a source of refreshing that I wanted to share them with you.
The first book that I absolutely recommend is Embracing Mystery: a 21-day journey of hope by Anna Maher. It is a devotional that focuses on biblical truths that bring comfort in times of grief. It is very reflective which I love. Some books will just have a list of what to do when you’re grieving, or how you should feel, etc. but this book is completely personal, which is appropriate since everyone grieves in different ways.
Another book I found extremely hopeful, which may seem a little unusual, is Supernatural Childbirth by Jackie Mize. I don’t recommend this book if you just lost a child and are not interested in having any more children. This book came into my hands at the time in my grieving where I was ready to start thinking of having more children. It has some testimonies in it of women who have lost babies and have gone on to have Supernaturally healthy pregnancies and babies after applying and believing some of God’s promises to their lives. It brings hope in a unique way, specifically to conceiving, carrying and birthing your children.
Safe in the arms of God, written by John MacArthur, is a book devoted to confirming the fact that our deceased babies are with God in heaven. It is backed by multiple scriptural references, and it really brings a sense of peace to parents who might not be sure if they’ll ever meet their babies again. This book was quite thought provoking and inspired several conversations with my husband as to what his opinions were on certain matters covered in the book.
I’m not sure I would recommend this book immediately after losing a child, as it is a bit heavy, but when you’re ready to seek out truths and explore different ideas, this book is worth the read!
Mending Tomorrow by Alyssa Quilala is a book that I honestly put off reading for a good while. I had followed the Quilalas’ story of losing their son Jethro (stillbirth) while I was still pregnant with Briela. I remember feeling terrible for them and couldn’t imagine what it could possibly be like to lose a child, that is until I lost Briela a few months later. I had started writing my own book already when I learned that Alyssa was writing hers, and I decided to wait until I finished mine before reading hers. Well I finally got to the point where I was ‘ready’ to read Alyssa’s story, and I highly recommend this book! It starts with the story of how they lost their son, then goes through her and her husbands experiences of finding hope through the hardships that accompany losing a child. It’s inspirational for those who need a boost of hope after losing a child, or those who know someone who has.
I will continue my search of helpful resources and share them as I find them. Feel free to add your own choices in the comments below!